The word conjures images of warriors, those who seem to be unafraid; or if they are afraid, it’s not apparent to an observer. The root or origin of the word can be found in heart. In Latin, cor means heart.
In the various places I frequent in our virtual world, I’ve noticed many who have commented that they cannot find their courage to…do something. Some commented that they cannot “find” their courage, or worse believe they have none.
Courage is at the heart of our very being.
We need look no further than within to connect to the courage that we have; to recognize that which we may have forgotten is there, awaiting our return.
I have done a few courageous things in my life. I cannot honestly say that I did them consciously…with heart. I can say that regardless of the outcome, I know in retrospect that they were courageous and were the right thing to do at that time.
I’ve heard it said that courage is “fear that has said its prayers”. As I reflect on some of my courageous acts or choices, I know that prayer was always a part of the preparation for taking a step into the unknown or unfamiliar.
It would seem that if fear is at the core of not finding our courage, and heart is at the root of courage, then perhaps we are distracted from our hearts. Our hearts(souls) are our very essence. Why then turn away from the part of ourselves that connects us to the All That Is, our Creator? For this is where love resides.
Love – Trust – Courage
There is a part of us which not only carries our wounds; it uses them to guide us away from love, trust and courage. It is the voice of the ego. It is well-intentioned, for it seeks to save us from the pain of more anguish, hurt, loss. Yet, in its process of doing so, it keeps us from that part of us which when trusted, opens us to experiences unimaginable.
Marianne Williamson says it quite well: “The ego is our self-love turned into self-hatred. The ego is our mental power turned against ourselves.”
A good example of what can happen when our well-intentioned ego keeps us from living in our hearts is when we have loved and lost. There are numerous ways in which this occurs.
- We are in a relationship and one of us ends or otherwise steps away from it. We are deeply saddened, feeling wounded and sometimes vow that we will never let that happen again. We then close our hearts to our own healing and then to potentially allowing another into that precious and very special heart space of ours. The ego reminds us that we had “better not go there” for we will find ourselves hurt again. Many of us heed that advice, and separate ourselves from the potential for the very connection to another that we yearn so deeply for.
What do we really need? Trust of ourselves, our hearts. Courage to heal those wounds and open ourselves to the possibility that a loving relationship is just around the corner and is our heart’s true desire.
- We lose a loved one to an illness, or to a violent end of their lives. We suffer in the “what ifs” and “whys” and may find ourselves stuck in the grieving process for a very long time…even years. The ego reminds us that nothing lasts forever and that we need not invest our love too deeply in anyone for we could lose them, too. We heed that advice and separate ourselves from the very connections that can help us heal; the salve on the open wound of our broken hearts.
What do we need? Trust of ourselves, our hearts. Courage to heal those wounds and open ourselves to the possibility that love and connection are the very sources of nourishment for our souls that will sustain us and bring even more joy into our human experience.
I have oversimplified these examples to make the point about courage…love…heart. Yet, we need not make our circumstances so complex that we keep ourselves stuck in the darkness of them. For that is the power base for the ego.
We were not dropped into and through our parents onto a planet devoid of love, beauty and possibility. In fact the opposite is true. We chose to be here. Lovingly supported by our Creator, we co-create the experiences which will bring us back to Who We Are…the essence of the Universe, Spirit, God, the All That Is.
Pain is a part of it. Betrayal is part of it. Hardships are part of it. The empowering of the ego is very much a part of it.
To find your courage, go within. Get quiet, listen to the voice of your heart. Express gratitude to your ego for all of its attempts to protect you and then release it so that you can hear the loving voice of your heart.
We are here, together, on a planet filled with love, beauty and possibility. Looking through the lens of love and possibility rather than the lens of fear and avoidance of pain can make the difference in the experience of our lives while we are here.
Be a Heart Warrior. I am.
Look within and feel the courage to love and to be loved;
Allow yourself to love even more deeply today, than yesterday.
Have courage to allow yourself to be vulnerable. Change the suit of armor against fear to a soft flowing robe of light, love and possibility. Courage – Heart.
“It’s ironic that I’m the most afraid when I’m being brave. Vulnerability = courage.”
– Brene Brown, 8/15/2013
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